Estate Planning After Divorce: 7 Essentials Every Co-Parent Should Tackle

Divorce untangles one set of legal ties and instantly creates another: the lifelong obligation to protect your children—financially and emotionally—across two households. A freshly minted custody order is not a substitute for an estate plan. Use the checklist below to make sure your post-divorce paperwork actually works if something happens to you.

1. Refresh Beneficiary Designations

Retirement accounts, IRAs, and life-insurance policies pass outside of probate. If your ex-spouse is still the named beneficiary, they will inherit—even if your judgment says otherwise. Update forms with your plan administrator and keep stamped copies in your files.

2. Rewrite Your Will (and Consider a Trust)

A new will—or better yet, a revocable living trust—lets you redirect assets to children, charities, or a new partner without ambiguity. Trusts also provide privacy and avoid the delays of probate for your kids.

3. Revisit Guardianship Choices

Your ex-spouse/co-parent is the presumptive guardian if you die while the children are minors, but what if you both pass away or the other parent is unfit? Name successor guardians in writing and include at least one alternate. If you anticipate conflict, document your reasons in a separate memo to guide the judge.

4. Protect Inheritances from Mismanagement

Minor children cannot hold title directly. Leaving assets “to my kids outright” forces a court-supervised guardianship and hands control to the surviving parent until the each child turns 18. Instead, funnel inheritances into a children’s sub-trust that allows a trusted relative—or professional fiduciary—to manage funds until a more mature age you choose.

5. Align Life-Insurance with Support Obligations

Most marital-settlement agreements require the payor parent to maintain life-insurance to secure child support. Verify policy amounts, beneficiaries, and term lengths annually. Consider directing proceeds to the children’s sub-trust rather than to your ex to ensure support dollars are actually used for the kids.

6. Update Health-Care Directives and HIPAA Releases

If you named your former spouse to make medical decisions, swap in someone who still shares your values. Sign a fresh Advance Health-Care Directive and HIPAA release so doctors can speak with the right people in an emergency. Provide copies to your primary physician and save PDFs in an accessible space.

7. Document—and Communicate—Your Plan

Store originals in a safe place, and share the location with your successor trustee and guardians. A brief conversation now eliminates confusion later, especially if a blended family or new partner is in the picture.

Next Step: Schedule a post-divorce estate-plan review every three years—or immediately after remarriage, relocation, or a significant financial change. Thoughtful planning today spares your children from courtroom drama tomorrow and keeps your hard-won parenting agreements intact long after the divorce decree is filed. Contact us today for a free initial consultation.